“But I’m in fear I’ll gain the weight back.”
“I’m scared weight loss surgery won’t work for me, that I’ll fail.”
“I’m feeling like a failure, like I’ll never lose this regain.”
Have you heard the stories about people who are afraid to ride a bike because they’re scared they’ll crash into something?
And inevitably it happens. I watched my mom do it more than a few times, every time I’d beg her to go bike riding with me. Then I felt bad.
Most recently, I was watching an episode of FRASIER. Do you remember the one where Frasier and Niles reveal they never learned how to ride a bike? Frasier wants to learn because there’s a Bike-A-Thon being sponsored by his radio station, and he doesn’t want to be the only host who doesn’t participate.
So Daphne tries to teach him how to ride a bike. But Frasier is so fearful of crashing into a tree, that…
…inevitably he crashes into the tree.
But he ends up doing well enough that he goes ahead and joins the Bike-A-Thon.
He’s feeling confident…
…until fear enters his mind when his brother says, “Frasier, don’t fixate on anything you can crash into.”
So even though he’s practiced and felt confident enough to show up, what did fear do to Frasier?
Frasier allowed FEAR to guide him directly into the mailbox.
What about you?
When you have fear about regaining weight, or you’re feeling like a failure because of regain or never moving off a plateau, when you begin to agonize and worry…you’re in fear.
“Now is the time to understand more so that we may fear less.” ~Marie Curie
My friend, it’s time for you to understand HOW and WHY you reached obesity / morbid obesity.
It’s time to review what you expected to achieve by having weight loss surgery.
And now, wherever you are in your journey, it’s time to get crystal clear on WHY you want to reach your healthiest weight and HOW you’ll get there.
It’s time to stop feeling like a failure after weight loss surgery, and no more fear!
Love, light and grace to you.