Get your nose back where it belongs.

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“Why is Kevin still living at home? Isn’t he like, 28?
Why are Tammy and Joe enabling him?
Does he have a job? Did he even graduate from college?
Tammy babied him his whole childhood and look what happened!
I know Joe’s unhappy. I saw him last weekend and I can tell he’s miserable with the arrangement.”

“Janice just spreads herself too thin.
But I think her problem is she can’t make herself focus on one thing.
I don’t know what she’s trying to compensate for by doing so much.
But you know who’s really suffering? Her kids. Have you seen them?
Maybe Janice should spend a little more time on her kids.”

Alright, so maybe you don’t usually get to this degree of nosiness and judgment, but my hunch is sweetheart, and I say this in the most loving way possible…you probably have.

I have.

But not so much anymore. And I’m grateful. I’m especially grateful to Byron Katie, for teaching me why and how to get my nose back where it belongs.

I’ve got a really cool THREE-MINUTE video that explains it all. Your peace is worth THREE MINUTES, right?

Okay then. Let’s do this.

And if this video – WHAT I’m saying or HOW I’m explaining it – seems a little different, please give it some time and an open mind. It felt that way for me too. But now…I couldn’t live without it.

Mind Your Own Business from Mary Clark on Vimeo.

Here’s a little more explanation from Byron Katie on “Staying In Your Own Business.”

“If you are living your life and I am mentally living your life, who is here living mine? We’re both over there. Being mentally in your business keeps me from being present in my own…To think that I know what’s best for anyone else is to be out of my business. Even in the name of love, it is pure arrogance, and the result is tension, anxiety, and fear.”

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“The next time you’re feeling stress or discomfort, ask yourself whose business you’re in mentally, and you may burst out laughing!…And you may come to see that you’ve never really been present, that you’ve been mentally living in other people’s business all your life. Just to notice that you’re in someone else’s business can bring you back to your own wonderful self.”